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The Witness: Embracing Peace and Clarity in Daily Life

I didn’t know what the title of this blog would be until the very end. I share that because I found it interesting how my journaling unfolded upon awakening.

I slept for about nine hours last night, and for the first time in a long while, I felt completely rested. Yet I don’t believe it was simply the number of hours—it felt more like a release of energy from the day before, continuing as I slept.

Yesterday, while working with a client, I chose to set clear boundaries. Instead of allowing empathy to lead me into taking on more than was aligned, I remained present, supportive, and grounded—without overextending myself.

In doing so, something shifted.

I was able to help without creating a burden in my own life. I did not need to be harsh or closed off. I simply remained aligned.

There is so much to manage in daily life—work, home, family, responsibilities—and for those on a spiritual path, the added exploration of what that path truly means. Time can feel limited, and often self-care or spiritual connection gets pushed aside.

At one point, I had begun to feel that everything outside of the spiritual felt like a burden—sometimes even overwhelming.

But setting that boundary yesterday felt like the release of a final pressure valve.

This morning, I awoke in a different state.

I feel present in the world—but not entangled in it.

There is a sense of detachment, not from disconnection, but from attachment to outcomes. I don’t feel the need to track every event or understand every unfolding. Instead, I feel as though I am holding a field of the highest good—available for those who are ready to receive it.

For those who are not ready, there is no resistance—only allowance.

Their path is theirs.
And it does not disturb my alignment.

I sense myself within what feels like a dome of grace.

From here, I witness.

I remain aligned, anchoring grace, truth, love, and clarity—not through force, but through presence. I allow this energy to extend outward naturally, while maintaining stability within.

This is what it feels like to be in the world, but not of it.

I also realized something important:

Peace and grace can be brought into everything I do.

Love and joy may not always be present in every task—and that is okay.

We may appreciate a clean home, but not feel joy while scrubbing floors or pulling weeds.

I was reminded of a conversation with an employer who once said, when asked about a “honey-do list”:

“Yes—but I love my work. So I work more, and I pay someone else to do what they enjoy doing. Then we are all happy.”

There was wisdom in that simplicity.

So today, I choose this:

Today is my peaceful day.

I honor my boundaries.
I walk aligned in grace.
I serve without interfering in the free will of others.

I remain as the Witness.

From this state of Being, I allow the doing to arise naturally.

And as I continue to grow, I trust that I will increasingly align my life with what I enjoy—
while allowing others to do what they enjoy as well.

In this, there is harmony.

In this, there is freedom.

And in this…
I live as The Witness.

Closing Blessing / Invocation – The Witness

Beloved Presence within,

We return now to the still point—
the place of quiet awareness
that observes without attachment
and loves without condition.

Where we have overextended,
restore our balance.
Where we have taken on what is not ours,
gently release it from our field.

Teach us the grace of boundaries—
not as walls,
but as clarity of alignment.

May we stand in the world
without becoming entangled in it.
May we care deeply
without carrying what is not ours to hold.

Awaken within us
the strength to remain centered,
the wisdom to allow,
and the peace that comes from trust.

Let us witness without judgment.
Let us serve without depletion.
Let us love without attachment to outcome.

May our presence become the offering—
steady, clear, and calm.

And from this state of Being,
may all that we do arise in harmony.

Today, we choose peace.
Today, we choose grace.
Today, we walk as the Witness.

And so it is. 🌿

I Am Auriel’La’Rue’Quinara

Why Self-Care is Not Selfish: Embracing Boundaries

In this world there seems to be be a split of givers and takers.

As we know over the last week, our goal is to come into balance and harmony in our lives. We need to balance the giving and the recieving, not taking. AH, revelation takers are selfish and receiving is balance. So is setting boundaries selfish? This is what we are going to look at today.

As life is a mirror or reflection to show us that which we need to look at within ourselves that causes us to react so to this topic was mirrored to me. I came across a video of a man who was sharing how he was so tired and hurt that in being a good person and helping others, he was continually used and left emotionally hurt and drained. It tugged at my heart as an empath and a giver myself. I don’t know if it was a real or fake video, but the message was clear for me. Then today as I walked by the television I heard a minister ask her audience how many believed being selfish was okay.

This I knew was the message that was going to be written today. For yesterday, I was told that it was important for me to begin to set boundaries, so that as I work in a more expanded way with people I do not allow the Giver/Caretaker energy within me to allow myself to be overwhelmed by takers. For you see it is not selfish to set boundaries or to receive. However, one must balance recieving and giving. I have the giving part down but the receiving or even asking for help has been a problem.

I discussed this a bit in yesterday’s message of how after my Father passed, I fel like I had to be strong and take care of others and didn’t ask for help. I find myself seeing a need a helping a person but not asking for help when I need it and feeling ackward when someone tries to help. In doing so, I am stopping the flow. The other part is that I tend to get connected with takers like this gentleman in the video and a part of me feels guilty to say ‘no’. So, my guides are saying it is time to learn to set boundaries. I am about to learn that lesson well in my life.

What they want me to know that it is not selfish to set boundaries. To do things when it works for you instead of when another demands it. It is not weak to ask for help, for even our teachers and guides are limited in helping us unless we ask. Givers need to take time to replenish their energy.

I need to learn that taking care of myself and my needs is not selfish unless I tend to always put myself before the needs of all others. It is finding the balance of being able to work, be of service, grow spiritually and enjoy life. For we are here to enjoy this beautiful planet upon which we live. Yesterday, we took the afternnon to go to the ocean. It was good and the water always helps to clear the old energies and bring peace and joy. This still left time to do a little work, share a message on my blog, and do some reading and meditating. Balance, I had a client call me that they needed help, in the past this call would have made me feel guilty for taking this time for myself. Instead I simply said I was out of the office and would do it if I got back in time that day or the next.

That may not seem like a big deal to many but for me it was a big step. I am simply taking things one day and event at a time. So balance comes in all forms in order to bring harmony into our lives. We give in service to help others but we need to be aware of takers who are selfish and set boundaries for keeping our mind, body, and emotions in balance, and our lives. We need to learn to recieve, to ask for help from others , and our guides and teachers so that we dont get overwhelmed. This is called self care, not selfishness, unless we expect our guides or others to do everything for us and we fail to put forth any effort to clear, learn and grow.

So, I would tell that man that represented myself, to not stop being a good and caring person who helps others, but to stop and set boundaries. Help others in a way that allows you to care for your needs and find balance in your lfie. Ask for help if you become overwhelmed and it will come. For you are a good person and deserve to receive help as much as you give help. To love yourself is a priority for others to love you in a healthy, and balanced manner.

Remember we attract to us that which vibrates at the same level as ourselves. If we are putting out signals that we are not worthy of receiving but only giving then we will attract the selfish takers. Sometimes it is a need to find validation outside of ourselves that we are a good person, that we make a point of giving in an unbalanced manner to others. Perhaps it feeds our ego when they are appreciative and makes us feel good about ourselves instead of simply doing it because we are all one and in helping another we are helping a part of ourselves and the Creator Source of All Life.

So we need to be aware of our motive in giving and being of service. We need to spend some self time in quiet seeking within to see what is my motivation, and why do I do this? Is it selfless or do I get a reward? Do I need to set boundaries, or clear some old beliefs and emotions? Go into the quiet and ask for help to see and understand. Ask for help to clear any blockages or unbalanced energy. Heal your wounds and balance you mind, body, emotions and spirit. Give to others from a place of service and caring without reward. Yet set boundaries that are healthy for yourself so that you do not become overwhelmed.

Remember you don’t have to do it all yourself. Ask, whether it be from your guides or from another person for help yourself. You need to balance giving and receiving to grow spiritually.

I Am Mareya Shimayah Elohim